Style’s key trump card over fashion is its charm.
Fashion is a formula that anyone can work out: throw on a combination of the latest trends and voila! You’re in fashion. As a result, there’s almost a coldness to it. But style has feeling. By personally deciding what is right for you, every aspect of what you choose to wear makes up your own special style DNA.
Every season we’re told what’s ‘in’ and what’s ‘out’. But by following these rules to the letter, one’s look becomes devoid of interest and charisma.
A couple of years ago I went to a major Fashion magazine event, where the majority of attendees followed the same code, wore the same styles and, consequently, looked like clones. But I recall seeing a girl who broke the mould by wearing something very unusual. I thought “good for her”! She clearly loved what she was wearing and didn’t care if it didn’t follow the latest trends. She oozed confidence and stood out.
And, as a result, she’s the one I’ve fondly remembered. What she wore wasn’t to my personal taste, but I can vividly remember the hat she was wearing, down to the badges she had on her bag. I admired her for it. As to the rest: all I can remember is that they were ‘on-trend’, whatever that was at the time.
The point is: she was different. And by mixing her uniqueness with inner confidence, she had style.
So, what makes you different? Is it the fact you can only wear flats? Maybe you look best in trousers? Or you love a certain neckline even if the magazines tell you it’s ‘last-season’? It doesn’t matter! For me: I don’t have my ears pierced (something people are often quite surprised to discover). I love earrings but I’ve decided getting my ears pierced isn’t for me. And so that’s influenced my style – rather than compensating by wearing loads of jewellery elsewhere, I opt for a minimal look overall. I wear one (often statement) piece, 2 max, and leave it at that. And that has become part of my style identity.
Vintage Chanel clip ons
Celebrate what makes you unusual, and don’t listen to what’s ‘right’ and ‘wrong’. Because that is what gives you charm and make you stand out. If it works for you then embrace it. After all, as Coco Chanel rightly said: “In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different”.